The Dangers of Escapism

When most people think of addictions the first thing that usually comes to mind is having an unhealthy connection to food, alcohol, drugs, porn, etc.  However, if we look beyond the actions and patterns of addiction, what we are really dealing with is escapism. There is a need to be anywhere but in the present moment. This is pervasive in our culture today.

Escapism is defined as the tendency to seek distraction and relief from unpleasant realities, especially by entertainment or engaging in fantasy. There are the extremes of addiction to substances, but escapism can also manifest into watching too much TV, reading books, listening to music, social media, daydreaming, working out, and so on. These activities can be healthy and even useful in small doses. Taking breaks and vacations are necessary and restorative. We all need a break and we all need outlets for balance. It becomes an issue when it goes too far and affects out productivity and forward movement in life. All we want to do is escape avoid what is going on.

Escapism in the extreme allows us to avoid shame and emotional pain. It is impossible to fully escape from life and all of the twists, turns, ups and down. If escapism is an issue, you can learn to find balance again and get yourself back in the driver’s seat of your life. For starters, it is vital to improve and maintain the relationship to yourself. Do you love who you are? Do you accept yourself totally in the here and now? It is my belief that when escapism begins to have a negative influence on your life that it is an indication of deep seated self-loathing. No matter how hard you try, you can’t escape from yourself. Wherever you go, there you are. Habitual escapism will eventually alienate you from your friends, family, and it can keep you from living the life you truly deserve because you will not be setting worthy goals.

The methods of escapism in and of themselves are not the issue. Rather, it’s the motivation behind the actions. It is important to identity what you are actually trying to escape from. Are we in a relationship that has ran its course? Perhaps we are in an unfulfilling job and we look forward to getting a drink after work? Are you not happy with your weight? What are you really trying to disassociate with? This will require some introspection and ultimately taking responsibility for your life and everything in it. This is not an easy task and it will take some time, especially if escapism has been a coping mechanism for you for a long time. The sting of reality can be painful. However, it can be done, and you will be a stronger, more aware version of yourself.